Tuesday, August 29, 2017

Transforming into the Person we are called to be

Romans 12:1-8
Rev. Debra Jene Collum
August 27, 2017
Chatfield UMC

Because of our conditioning and our MN nicenesss there is a piece of this scripture that we zero in on and if these words become the focus of this scripture then we will miss the importance of the rest of the scripture.

Listen again:
 I appeal to you therefore, brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds, so that you may discern what is the will of God—what is good and acceptable and perfect.
For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of yourself more highly than you ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.

It’s that verse: Don’t think of yourself more highly than you ought. That is like the most Midwestern verse of the bible don’t you think?
We who are taught from our childhood that we are less than, not worth much, just barely talented…
We hear the messages in our heads don’t we:
Who do you think you are?
Do you think the world revolves around you?
You aren’t the center of the universe you know.

And then our beloved scriptures join in on the chorus:
Don’t think of yourself more highly than you ought.

Thanks Paul. That was helpful.

If that becomes the verse we focus on in this passage and if this is the attitude by which we approach our Christian life we will be forever stuck in a grace less, and powerless life. And that is never ever what God through Christ in the power of the Holy Spirit has planned for us. NEVER.

There is another word, WORD, one Word in this verse that is more important and central to our lives than these words of seeming belittlement.
And if we listen to this word and become what this word asks of us we won’t have to worry about becoming too big for our britches. We will live lives that are balanced between proper humility and proper empowerment. We will live lives that will be well pleasing to God and of service to our neighbors. And we will be balanced in our own hearts and souls.

So that magical word is: Transformed. Actually, two words: Be Transformed.
Be Transformed.

Out of your personal degradation, your personal bullying. All that old inner messages that tells you that you are not good enough, bright enough, brave enough.

Be transformed into that person God says you are, right here right now.
The person who has a gift that can be powerful in ministry.

Be transformed in your own mind to renewal. To seeing yourself as God sees you. As someone worth dying for. As someone worth living for. As someone worth gifting with the power of the holy spirit.

Be transformed so that you can discover the gift that God’s grace has given you. No matter what it is: if it is hospitality, by hospitable as Jesus would be hospitable.
If it is teaching, teach as if the person you are teaching might someday discover the cure for cancer or the way to peace
If your gift from God is serving, then serve as if each person you serve is the person of Jesus.
If it is encouragement, then encourage until everyone you meet believes that they are capable to the most brilliant and difficult and life changing action they could ever imagine.

Be transformed, in other words, so that your life reflects the life that God has already given you. A life of abundance and grace and love and devotion and LOVE.

Be transformed as Peter was transformed. From a doubting, betraying, head strong, ordinary fisherman into the Rock on which the church of Jesus the Christ was built. What if Peter had said: I am only a fisherman. I have no education, no credentials, no amazing gifts, God, use someone else more qualified. I’m sure there is some professional who can build your church. I’ll just stay home and catch fish.

God saw in Peter a gift of love and devotion and even head strong devotion to the work of Jesus the Christ and said to Peter, it is just what I need. Be transformed. Build my church.

Did Peter get it right every time. ABSOLUTELY NOT. Oh my no. He had to be taught over and over and over again just how much he needed to be transformed, daily, moment by moment as he learned to love people he didn’t think would be lovable. But I bet he sat at his bed every night amazed, amazed at how God was transforming his life. Amazed at how God was bringing into his life people he never imagined he could love. Amazed at how God’s work was spreading throughout the world just by the faithful words and works of Jesus followers.
Wouldn’t it be amazing to see that transformation of the world as the words of Jesus became known and practiced?
As people learned that they were worthy of the life death and resurrection of God’s own son, Jesus the Christ.
As people learned that there were worthy of forgiveness, grace and love.
As people who didn’t know they could eat together at the same table, ate with joy and inclusion?
As people who didn’t know they could leave behind destructive ways of living learn how to live lives that were hope filled?
As people who thought the only thing controlling their lives was a crooked and corrupt political system learned that they actually lived in the kindom of God which is ruled by justice, mercy and grace and love?
As people learned that living out of justice and mercy and grace and love could transform not only their own lives but the lives of their neighbors, their neighborhood, their community?

As people learned that they are not the center of the universe but they are the center of God’s heart.

Wouldn’t it be amazing: Well it is amazing! Right here right now!
As we learn that we are not the center of the universe but we are the center of God’s heart.

It is amazing. That we still have the courage to bring children to this fount and declare together that we will resist evil and injustice in whatever forms they present themselves.
That we will expect this child to grow into a person who will bear the light of Christ in the world.
That we will gather around the table and eat together even when we don’t agree
That we will fling open our doors to whomever dares enter and say to them, you are the center of God’s heart and we will learn to love you just as God loves us.

That we will believe and have the courage the believe that our own lives are being transformed into a better version of who we are through the love and grace of God in our lives as a community of God.

Monday, August 7, 2017

Shattering Our Expectations

Shattering our Expectations
Genesis 31
Chatfield UMC
August 6, 2017
Rev. Debra Jene Collum

I’m going to back this story up a little bit to when Jacob leaves his wives father’s home.
The family of Jacob, Leah and Rachel has lived long and prospered in the land of Haran. Some people would say it is because Jacob was such a good man. That he was God’s man. That is why his wealth increased and his family was doing so well. Some people would say that this was God blessing Jacob. But the bible doesn’t say that. The bible is clear that Jacob is wealthy and prosperous because he is a conniver.

His prosperity came to him as a result of tricking his father in law and being just a little-more-clever in the ways of livestock breeding.

Those of you who breed animals will understand what Jacob did to gain his fortune. He made some fences and when the animals of his father-in-law, Laban, came to the water troughs to breed he separated the weaker from the stronger. And he kept the stronger ones, while he sent the weaker ones back to Laban’s flocks. The resulting livestock was the strongest and the most colorful so that Jacob could sort out his livestock from the others.
In some ways, Laban got what he deserved. He put his sons in charge of his flocks who must not have been watching out for their father’s animals. He, obviously, wasn’t watching to his own flocks. He wasn’t managing the farm very well.
But instead of working with Jacob and helping his sons learn the trade, Laban got mad. And Jacob saw that Laban was mad.

So, self-centered Jacob decided it was time to go home.

He gets up in the middle of the night, and the bible says: Then Jacob put his children and his wives on camels, and he drove all his livestock ahead of him, along with all the goods he had accumulated in Paddan Aram, to go to his father Isaac in the land of Canaan. (Genesis 31)
They take off without saying a single goodbye to Grandfather Laban.

Now those of us who are grandparents can understand how Laban must have felt. Besides losing a bunch of livestock and household goods, his grandchildren have been taken from him. It is our greatest fear as grandparents that our grandchildren would be taken from us.

We would expect that someone as powerful as Laban would have demanded that Jacob return or at least give him back his grandchildren and daughters. And here is where these stories have their meaning.

Because in the midst of our expectations about how the story is supposed to go, our expectations are always shattered.
Because even conniving, sinful and prideful egotistical people like Jacob and Laban can hear God.

As Laban is pursuing Jacob to get his revenge, Laban hears a message from God: ‘let Jacob and his family go. Do not harm them, do not hinder them.
And this angry, conniving, self-centered man heeds this message from God.

I wonder what Jacob thought when Laban sets up an altar of stones and swears his protection and blessing over Jacob’s family? He has been worried that his fatherinlaw was going to come and snatch his wives and children and take them back to Haran. But instead he gets a blessing from Laban and an altar in the wilderness.
We read in the text that early the next morning Laban kissed his grandchildren and his daughters and blessed them. Then he left and returned home

This is where we get the beautiful words of the Jewish Mizpah. Laban says to Jacob in a moment that must have broken his heart: “May the LORD keep watch between you and me when we are away from each other.”

From shattered expectations to renewed hope and family solidarity. I wonder if there is a lesson here for us?

I read an interesting piece this week about expectations within families. 

We have always heard that the two major threats to married life are sex and money. But, a marriage therapist said, no, those are only the symptoms. The underlying problem he said is unmet expectations. Unmet expectations.

You see we are taught, through social media and books and movies that families are places of peace and tranquility. That if we are really meant to be together as a family then supper will always be on the table when everyone gets home from work, the kids will always use polite words when speaking to their parents and other adults, there will always be enough money for all the necessities, and family vacations will renew and relax everyone.

When the reality is this: PPT

Unmade beds, toys scattered all over the house, dinner late or not at all, screaming kids, or parents in the car on the way to church, of all places…

This isn’t what we signed up for and not what we expected. And so we find ourselves frustrated.
With life, with ourselves, with each other.

One of the great thing about these biblical stories is this: families have always been full of unmet expectations. Always, even those biblical stories about people we think of as biblical heroes. As role models.

They are all, ALL, a bunch of self-centered, conniving, sinful, ungodly people who more often than not do not meet anyone’s expectations of holy living.
Until they start listening to God. Then, their behaviors begin to change into expectations of godly living. Then mean and angry men like Laban can say beautiful words that have been immortalized: May the LORD keep watch between you and me when we are away from each other.”

Ok, so does that mean that when we start listening to God and living out of God’s way the toys will get picked up, supper will be on time and our children will be angels. And we will always have only blessed things coming out of our mouths.

Well, wouldn’t that be nice.

No, of course not. We will still live with chaos. But…when we start listening to God, who will always say to us, love one another as I have loved you. Even in the midst of chaos, anger and frustration. When we listen to God, our frustration can be turned into an opportunity to see the good in our lives. So that we can start expecting the best not the worst.

When we start listening to this message from God, daily, moment by moment, the toys laying around the room reminds us that our children are well off.
The supper that is late reminds us that we have food when others don’t and that we are necessary for the survival of the household.
The screaming child reminds us that this little being is dependent on us for their well-being and that is a tremendous gift from God.
The chaos of our lives reminds us that we are people who need God’s words in our lives to find balance and meaning and purpose. We are not self-sufficient. We are not without the need of a savior. We are not on our own with no safety net.
We are God’s child.
We are given opportunity to listen to someone greater than us who can teach us to go beyond our limited abilities and thrive as a person of God.

It is not all up to us. And shattering that expectation most of all can free us to live a life that is truly free. Free to love each other as God loves us.

(Thoughts about marriage and expectations from http://faithit.com/silent-marriage-killer-derek-harvey/)

Tuesday, August 1, 2017

It Is Not Our Custom

Genesis 29:15–28
Rev. Debra Jene Collum
Chatfield UMC
July 29, 2017

It is not our custom. It is not our custom.

We are settling into this story of the Hebrew scriptures mid story. All sorts of things have gone on in Jacob’s life to bring him to this point.
He has made decisions that will place him in the family line of God’s work in the world. But not because he is a great man of God. So far, Jacob has swindled his brother out of his birth-right. He has lied to his father. He has used his mother for his own purposes. And when things didn’t go his way he whined about it.
But God met Jacob along the way, in the midst of his whining, God turned Jacob’s heart toward love and forgiveness and worship.
So that Jacob becomes one of the three great fathers by whom God is named: I am the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.   

I think it is significant that in the Hebrew Scriptures, in the Old Testament, the fathers of our faith, Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, have romantic relationships with some of their wives.

This was not the custom in those days. Marriages were not based on falling in love. It was all about politics, money, land and power. Women were pawns in the game of acquisition.

As these men learned how to live and love as God taught them, as God loved them, through their short comings and hard headedness and egos, as these traditional men who represented the way of the culture of a patriarchal society is typically structured…learned about the love God has for them, they seemed to learn just a little bit that showing loving-kindness to their wives was not only acceptable, it was better, their stories passed down through the generations hinted at relationships with wives that were based on more than power. But unfortunately, it is only hinted at. They do not do it well or perfectly. They are living against their culture with no teaching manual or self-help books to guide them. It is really, really hard to go against culture.

In this story, Jacob falls in love with a woman. Rachel. And is willing to work, to become a hired hand in order to marry Rachel. Now realize, as this story in being told through oral tradition many generations after Jacob and Rachel have been established as matriarchs and patriarchs of the great Hebrew nation, the hearers of this story would realize Jacob’s work for Laban would be way below his pay grade, below his dignity as a patriarch of the Hebrew people. Yet, yet! This great patriarch was willing to labor for Rachel.

It is not our custom he could have told Laban. Jacob could have rallied the troops, claimed his birth right as a patriarch of Abraham’s tribe and taken Rachel by force. But he humbled himself and took on the form of a servant…to redeem his love. So, Jacob served seven years for Rachel, and they seemed to him but a few days because of the love he had for her.

Ahh. Isn’t that just like a Hallmark card??? So romantic.

And then the irony, when on the night of his wedding he finds out he is married to Rachel’s sister, Leah. Jacob the double crosser gets double crossed. I love it! Except for the fact that poor Leah had no say in the matter nor did Rachel.

If you read this story carefully you will find that Rachel and Leah have no say in any of this. No voice whatsoever. So let’s not get carried away here and claim a victory for love and power sharing. Because here is where the rubber hits the road,
here is where this story loses its power for change:
in Laban’s proclamation and Jacob’s response: It is not our custom.
It is not our custom to give the younger daughter before the older daughter is married.

It is not our custom. Now, if Jacob has really learned about God’s love and forgiveness and grace and abundant life for all, Jacob would have stood up and said: Excuse me? Your custom? I have just worked for Rachel and she loves me and we should be together. She deserves this as much as I do. But Jacob wasn’t that enlightened. And if you want to explore the real meaning behind the text look at various translations of verse 21: 21 Then Jacob said to Laban, “Give me my wife that I may take her to my bed, for my time is completed.” No, Jacob wasn’t all that enlightened.

The rest of the story will show that Jacob continues to scheme and plot and cheat…Laban is simply lucky that Jacob accepted custom and didn’t challenge it. Because, after all, this is how woman were treated. This was the custom. Who is going to challenge the custom?
Even when two women’s lives were changed forever? Without their input? Without their dignity?

It is the custom.

Now here is the point I want to make. Which I believe brings this story right into the 21st century.

We still use this excuse for the sins we commit that are outside the scope of God’s love and grace and forgiveness and redemption which we have been gifted with and are supposed to be sharing with others.

We still use this excuse for restricting our transformative experiences.
We still use this excuse to keep ourselves stuck in sinful behaviors that deny dignity to others.
We still use this excuse to excuse others for their own sins against God’s beloved ones.

Let me give you two examples to chew on this week:
One from the news this week:

We all have heard of the vote Senator John McCain made on the floor to stop the passage of a health care bill. Now whatever you feel about health care bills at the moment, put that aside. Put that aside. And hear me.
We have ALL heard of the vote of Senator John McCain. No matter what side of the aisle you are on. We have ALL heard how he rose from his hospital bed, in the midst of treatment for cancer, and dramatically turned his thumbs down on the Senate floor.

Have you also heard of Senator Mazie Hirono who has stage 4 kidney cancer and interrupted her treatment to be on the Senate floor? Did she get a standing ovation? Have you heard of Susan Collins and Lisa Murkoski who voted no and have received party threats and threats of violence and sexist comments have been made about them? Even though male colleagues also voted in the same way.

Could we say that it is the custom to lay blame at the feet of women and denigrate their leadership? Could we say that is the custom to ignore heroines?

Chew on that this week.

Another example comes from our own church, the UMC. And I believe, that if we do not change the way we think about this we will have no business being the church in the future. 

This year at annual conferences all throughout the world we are being asked to affirm changes to our constitution that would equalize the way we respect the equal rights of women and girls in our churches. The four constitutional amendments were all around these themes: girls and women have equal rights to education, health care and social status as men and the language we use for humans and God should reflect those equal rights.

Why in the 21st century would we need these constitutional amendments in the church? Because in some parts of our own country women and girls are not given free and safe access to the health care and education they need to succeed as citizens and full human beings. If you don’t believe me, come with me someday to Red Bird Mission and see how this UM mission work supports the women and girls who would be left behind otherwise. Or talk to anyone who works in the social service sector and ask them about how women and girls are treated in our society.

Why would we need these amendments in the church of the 21st century? The church that believes that Jesus the Christ lived, died and rose again so that all ALL could have abundant life? Because in the global church, girls are not given access to schools, to health care and not named as equal partners in the kindom of God. Because in the global church girls are still subjected to surgeries that would control their reproductive health and future well being as a woman and the church has only said: well it is the custom here what can we do?  Because in the global church Bishops still can have multiple wives and can still trade their wives for political favor and economic gain and the church flaps its hands and says, well it is the custom here what can we do? . Because in the global UMChurch women are taught that naming God as father is the only way to properly name God even if it hurts them to their core and the church stays silent because it is the custom and what can we do?

Chew on this for a while this week.
What customs do we have that oppress, that speak not of God’s grace and abundant living but of a god who hates and condemns and opposes life.

What customs do we excuse because we have always done it this way? What customs do we continue because they make us comfortable even if others are excluded?

It is our custom. But is it God’s way? It is the way Jesus the Christ taught us to live? Is it the way the Spirit empowers us to be?

Chew on this for a while. See where this might take you. See what new life you might discover.